tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post6744689841488443106..comments2021-08-03T01:38:32.106-07:00Comments on will not work for baby: Do I want to be pregnant or Do I want to be a mother?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-18238051422386813692009-12-28T20:05:39.072-08:002009-12-28T20:05:39.072-08:00I'm so glad you went to this meeting! It soun...I'm so glad you went to this meeting! It sounds like it gave you both an opportunity to talk about other options. My husband and I are in the middle of our wait for a baby through adoption after 4 years of infertility treatments. I hope you find the answer that is right for you!A California Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250016240098378966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-37411823028059065252009-10-25T01:53:50.354-07:002009-10-25T01:53:50.354-07:00Here through ICLW.
It seems you have answered th...Here through ICLW. <br /><br />It seems you have answered that very important question. <br /><br />The signs might not have been there befgore. Or rather, you weren't ready for them. Maybe if you started on the adoption road, you would have always regretted it, asking a lot of What if's.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08492649968147186399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-90153416696024797822009-10-24T20:02:55.200-07:002009-10-24T20:02:55.200-07:00Hi, I'm here from ICLW. I enjoyed reading you...Hi, I'm here from ICLW. I enjoyed reading your post and think of the same things. I'm so happy for you that you made a decision and are moving forward. Good luck in your journey, I wish you the best!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-74672333777026883562009-10-24T14:40:23.751-07:002009-10-24T14:40:23.751-07:00You raise such an interesting point and one I see ...You raise such an interesting point and one I see a lot-when does it all end. Not that I'm not thankful for the medical advances that have been made, but they do make it harder to know when to stop. Just when you think it's time, something else comes along or you hear of someone getting PG with some other technique. There is no one right way to have a family. I wish you success and happiness during the next steps on your journey!<br /><br />Dawn<br />Creating a FamilyDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06239925883199817128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-20881090009455238992009-10-24T09:40:11.949-07:002009-10-24T09:40:11.949-07:00Your reasoning here is exactly what ours was when ...Your reasoning here is exactly what ours was when we found our way to adoption: yes, I still want to experience pregnancy, & to make a baby who's half me, half my husband, but getting to be a mommy was the part I knew I could not live without. And it was such a relief, once we signed on with our agency, knowing that we'd moved from IF we ever have a baby to WHEN we bring our baby home. And it did occur to me that if we love our 2 rescue cats and one dog as much as we do, & consider them to be part of our family, and they aren't even the same species!--how much more quickly & completely we would love our adopted child! Also I have a stepgrandma who married my grandpa before I was born, helped raise me, and has always been my "real" grandma in every way that matters--and yet we have no blood ties. This was part of my realization that biology isn't everything--isn't even the main thing. I am happy to report that our boy, born just under a year after we started thinking about adoption, is the light of our lives & fits into our family so perfectly that it's clear he was always meant to be in it. Good luck with your next steps!Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319707316191000140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-6804493701263025142009-10-23T16:18:41.916-07:002009-10-23T16:18:41.916-07:00Congrats on your decision! You're putting the ...Congrats on your decision! You're putting the emphasis where it belongs - on being a parent. It sounds like you two will be great at it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-30651558059182701512009-10-23T03:16:53.480-07:002009-10-23T03:16:53.480-07:00Kerri, you and Rick have not wasted 4.5 years. You...Kerri, you and Rick have not wasted 4.5 years. You are closer to having a child now through adoption, which you may not have found acceptable earlier. It sounds like the two of you have great communication within your marriage, enabling you to agree on and rejoice in an alternative path to parenthood. You are lucky. By the time that the energy, finances and commitment to assisted birth runs out, many couples stand on opposite sides of the fence regarding the viable alternatives. I am excited for you and will be following your blog to see how well it turns out. <br />Lisa (ICLW # 100)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-63220005604513229752009-10-21T22:09:18.494-07:002009-10-21T22:09:18.494-07:00I don't know. I still see TTC my own baby and...I don't know. I still see TTC my own baby and adoption as two complete different subjects. Maybe it is because I was an orphan but I really want to have my own child. (not necessarily the pregnancy because I agree with you on the frightfullness of that path) I've always wanted to adopt, as well, because I was raised by other people most my life and know how important that can be for me and a child. However, money is a big issue because both paths are not cheap and I am dreading the adoption process with the paperwork and judging me phase. I see the benefits and drawbacks of both. Maybe I just want to have my cake and eat it too. <br />Good luck on your journey. <br />ICLWjunebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597959014121851131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-57646519992858028552009-10-21T20:54:38.647-07:002009-10-21T20:54:38.647-07:00I am always fascinated by how this journey leads u...I am always fascinated by how this journey leads us... We start out thinking one thing and then something entirely different comes along and makes complete sense. Blessings on the next stage of your journey!<br /><br />ICLWMrs. Gamgeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18351339333625358960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-30585444797113596662009-10-21T05:25:06.026-07:002009-10-21T05:25:06.026-07:00congrats on exploring the possibilities!!!
ICLWcongrats on exploring the possibilities!!!<br /><br />ICLWKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05758577356259866292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-16767603025976950992009-10-19T07:13:05.270-07:002009-10-19T07:13:05.270-07:00I'm so happy for y'all. Best of luck on y...I'm so happy for y'all. Best of luck on your new and exciting journey!!Amber and Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177669951948455796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-40988990732855950842009-10-17T10:19:57.317-07:002009-10-17T10:19:57.317-07:00Your post really struck a chord with me. My husban...Your post really struck a chord with me. My husband and I were talking about this after our last BFN during IVF. People get pregnant because they want to be parents not because they want to go through the pain of labor. Yeah, it'd be great to experience a baby growing in my belly, but at what point, when does it all end and you finally move onto your next option? I want to be a parent and if that means via adoption, then so be it. I know that no matter what choice we make, we're going to be great parents. Same goes for you! <br /><br />Good luck on the next part of your journey!ASPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07321670629336529429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-46845535915928705002009-10-16T13:36:09.803-07:002009-10-16T13:36:09.803-07:00Oh Kerri, that last sentence made me tear up. You ...Oh Kerri, that last sentence made me tear up. You sound like a different person. <br /><br />It definitely took us some time to let go of the biological loss. But I know it will be worth it, and I think it's really great that you have the RESOLVE meetings to help walk you both through the process. I hope you are able to move forward soon. <br /><br />Congratulations on your new plan!Melissa Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150534738341942742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-56868345619903905532009-10-16T07:49:17.104-07:002009-10-16T07:49:17.104-07:00So excited to hear about the next part of your jou...So excited to hear about the next part of your journey to motherhood :) I have a friend who has adopted 2 girls from China and she was kind enough to once show me the video of the first time she met her daughters. It was the most moving moment I've seen to date. Congratulations!Banana Pancakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10935880852135678195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-64623630279171740962009-10-16T05:47:36.761-07:002009-10-16T05:47:36.761-07:00Congratulations, Kerri, on your new direction. You...Congratulations, Kerri, on your new direction. Your post really touched a chord with me, and it has given me a lot to think about. Thank you!Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844439213088607748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-87401423565020100362009-10-16T00:20:08.515-07:002009-10-16T00:20:08.515-07:00Congratulations on making this next step Kerri!
Y...Congratulations on making this next step Kerri! <br />You two will make wonderful parents!Jessica - The Novice Chefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04623827019417360873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-34873040703579439932009-10-15T19:42:56.768-07:002009-10-15T19:42:56.768-07:00sound like you have your answer. i know that it i...sound like you have your answer. i know that it is a tough decision for a lot of people. because i am adopted it was just a no brainer, it does not matter where the child comes from the goal has always been to become a mother. i am so happy that you are looking into the adoption possibilities. please let me know if there is anything that i can help you with or questions that you think i may be able to answer. i became a social worker to work in the adoption field too.Jaymeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386596837111351204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2980747175093285983.post-14978853591954516432009-10-15T17:23:21.536-07:002009-10-15T17:23:21.536-07:00I'm so happy for you guys and your new step in...I'm so happy for you guys and your new step in this journey! This post almost made me cry. It's so much and yet, so little. I can't wait to see what comes next for you.<br /><br />Just remember, when you get your baby and need day care...you know who to call!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05255924708312589171noreply@blogger.com